Never underestimate the value of faith it doesn’t have to be in your god/gods or in the system, though those can work really well for a lot of people. The truth however is that even if you don’t have faith in those kinds of things you still need to have faith in something. That can be anything from faith in… Read more →
When there is something that you need to achieve, do yourself a favour and set out a realistic success range for you to achieve. This can prevent attempts to overshoot what’s actually requires doing and that will allow you to reduce your stress and anxiety levels which as you know are two of the most common triggers for self harm. Read more →
Make sure you know the difference between the people who want to help you or protect your well being, and those who want to change who you are. Mistaking a bad friend for a good one, or a good friend for a bad one can be all too easy and can lead you to the stress and turmoil that can… Read more →
Find something everyday, no matter how small, which you think would be fun to try. While you can’t prevent things from going awry doing this opens up more avenues for your days to go well. Read more →
Whenever you find yourself biting off more than you can, mark it down in a book you can consult for future ventures. This will allow you to prepare yourself in case you might be about to cross the limit of what you can handle this doesn’t mean you should ever give up on things based on your previous limitations, merely… Read more →
Realise that if you doubt yourself then you will only be setting yourself up to let yourself down. It is important to reflect often on what makes you worthwhile human being, as this will increase your self-confidence and that will in turn help empower you to overcome your self harm dependency. Read more →
If you feel that you aren’t getting support from people despite needing it badly, but you don’t trust anyone enough to come right out and admit to your problem then instead just try to stop hiding the fact that you’re not at one hundred percent. If you allow that opening you might be surprised with just how willing your friends… Read more →
Embrace your strengths. People tend to focus a lot on their weaknesses and failures, and can often see the things they’ve achieved as being ‘in the past’ rather than reflections of that which they are capable of. With that in mind it can be very useful to have a list of the skills you have which people could turn to… Read more →
Instead of harming yourself do something to make yourself feel pretty. Try on some new clothes or put on your favourite make-up. Just style yourself so you can look into the mirror and feel pretty. Read more →
We can often set ourselves up to get hurt, or even to hurt ourselves directly, by coming to the illusion that we aren’t as good as other people or as worthwhile. That is an illusion born of people’s tendencies to shift focus to the things that effect them the most. Realising that, well being selfish or too self centred isn’t… Read more →
