Although there is no reason we have to justify ourselves, it may help you to feel better about yourself if you create a short list of your general values which you can turn to when you feel torn between the things you can do. This can help prevent you from beating yourself up emotionally or self harming by allowing you… Read more →
It can be difficult to see what you have because you are so used to it, and this can lead to a focus on the things that would improve your life. During times when you are not emotionally frustrated you can help yourself to build up a resistance against bad feelings by imagining what your life would be like without… Read more →
While self-harm (and a great many other things) can be hard to recognize as truly bad for you until a friend points it out, in general it is a good idea in life to make sure that any advice you get is based in concern for you and that you are not being guided by other people’s issues. If something… Read more →
While we should try to avoid hurting or upsetting others, and it is always right to look out for your friends you must remember that you shouldn’t allow for your empathy to become as painful as there own feelings. To be honest, as well as causing you to be far more likely to vent through self-harm, too much empathy can… Read more →
While it can be hard for some people who have become relent on self harm to go through anything that gets to them without turning to it, you must n0t go out of your way to avoid minor annoyances. Adapting to these things without self harming can often help you to build up your resistance to the things that could… Read more →
Never underestimate the value of faith it doesn’t have to be in your god/gods or in the system, though those can work really well for a lot of people. The truth however is that even if you don’t have faith in those kinds of things you still need to have faith in something. That can be anything from faith in… Read more →
When there is something that you need to achieve, do yourself a favour and set out a realistic success range for you to achieve. This can prevent attempts to overshoot what’s actually requires doing and that will allow you to reduce your stress and anxiety levels which as you know are two of the most common triggers for self harm. Read more →
Make sure you know the difference between the people who want to help you or protect your well being, and those who want to change who you are. Mistaking a bad friend for a good one, or a good friend for a bad one can be all too easy and can lead you to the stress and turmoil that can… Read more →
Find something everyday, no matter how small, which you think would be fun to try. While you can’t prevent things from going awry doing this opens up more avenues for your days to go well. Read more →
Whenever you find yourself biting off more than you can, mark it down in a book you can consult for future ventures. This will allow you to prepare yourself in case you might be about to cross the limit of what you can handle this doesn’t mean you should ever give up on things based on your previous limitations, merely… Read more →
